Really enjoyed how clear your writing is here! I can definitely empathize with the feeling of putting a lot of emotional investment into one person or a couple of people. Would be curious about your take on the other side of the spectrum: spreading one’s social/emotional energy too thin across acquaintances and friends.
That's a good point. I think it's important to invest in relationships authentically so that you're not just engaging with someone for the sake of keeping the relationship going -- there's something valuable in it for both of you.
agree with this! also when i clicked on the title, i expected it would be about attachment theory or insecure/secure attachment (though this post is great as well) - could you write about that topic at some point? would love to see your take on it!
ahh, I can see how the title might be misleading. I allude to attachment theory in a few posts (e.g. https://elainewrites.substack.com/p/gravity-and-grace) but haven't tackled it directly. I do have some thoughts on it. thanks for the suggestion!
Yay I love this. Used to be so focused on finding small amount of people to meet all of my connection needs too (in my case friendships), now I diversify my connections and find much more fulfillment in relationships.
Same thing with a romantic relationship, we cant realistically rely on one person to satisfy all of our emotional, personal, sexual, etc. needs
I feel closely aligned with your values, and reading this felt like you were speaking my mind! Appreciate your clear writing :)
ty for reading and sharing your thoughts, jasmine!
Really enjoyed how clear your writing is here! I can definitely empathize with the feeling of putting a lot of emotional investment into one person or a couple of people. Would be curious about your take on the other side of the spectrum: spreading one’s social/emotional energy too thin across acquaintances and friends.
That's a good point. I think it's important to invest in relationships authentically so that you're not just engaging with someone for the sake of keeping the relationship going -- there's something valuable in it for both of you.
agree with this! also when i clicked on the title, i expected it would be about attachment theory or insecure/secure attachment (though this post is great as well) - could you write about that topic at some point? would love to see your take on it!
ahh, I can see how the title might be misleading. I allude to attachment theory in a few posts (e.g. https://elainewrites.substack.com/p/gravity-and-grace) but haven't tackled it directly. I do have some thoughts on it. thanks for the suggestion!
Yay I love this. Used to be so focused on finding small amount of people to meet all of my connection needs too (in my case friendships), now I diversify my connections and find much more fulfillment in relationships.
Same thing with a romantic relationship, we cant realistically rely on one person to satisfy all of our emotional, personal, sexual, etc. needs
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welcome! thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts/experiences <3