Honestly, super insightful. Projecting our bad qualities onto our partner is so detrimental. But we can't really help it, can we? Especially as "young" adults learning and growing in a way that is so different from our predecessors. Previous generations didn't put any merit in self-discovery and healing, because certain roles in a relationship were strictly defined. As we begin to break those walls down, we need to redefine our actions and roles with our significant others. And it's really daunting because it's such unmarked territory.
I know it scares the hell out of me, because who's to say on our road to recovery that we aren't burning bridges that were meant to stand? As we begin to "heal ourselves," are we actively pushing older relationships away that no longer fit within our new definition of self?
Honestly, super insightful. Projecting our bad qualities onto our partner is so detrimental. But we can't really help it, can we? Especially as "young" adults learning and growing in a way that is so different from our predecessors. Previous generations didn't put any merit in self-discovery and healing, because certain roles in a relationship were strictly defined. As we begin to break those walls down, we need to redefine our actions and roles with our significant others. And it's really daunting because it's such unmarked territory.
I know it scares the hell out of me, because who's to say on our road to recovery that we aren't burning bridges that were meant to stand? As we begin to "heal ourselves," are we actively pushing older relationships away that no longer fit within our new definition of self?
Keep it up, Elaine!
all good questions! thanks for reading and sharing