"the people we fall in love with often reveal to us untapped possibilities in ourselves" - Yes, I've found this to lead to unexpressed desires/dreams that were difficult to admit, and areas of my life that were not getting enough attention. In the IFS framework, this led to parts that were not being heard.
Such a simple question: "what *about* her makes me feel so alive?" -> art, adventure etc. when those things were missing in my life
What ended up happening to the woman who only went to Michelin starred restaurants? Did she have a turn like in the movie and marry a middle class (or lower) guy or did she stay in rich world forever?
If I may bring up House of Cards (the early seasons) Claire and Frank Underwood are not in love by Gen Z standards, nor by any romance that we might think of. They love each other in a cold, brutal way. They empower each other, fight for each other, and challenge each other. Yet their love doesn’t waiver. They are secure in their relationship, and yet have no romance, and yet have undying love.
The counter of this might be the musical Hadestown. Hades loves Persephone in the same cold and brutal way, yet he is insecure. His factories and walls is this perception. In the play, Hades character development is to forgo this coldness, and reintroduce warmth - “to remind an old man how to feel young again”, ultimately to start over again with Persephone (toying with mortal emotions along the way, which is so greek of him).
"the people we fall in love with often reveal to us untapped possibilities in ourselves" - Yes, I've found this to lead to unexpressed desires/dreams that were difficult to admit, and areas of my life that were not getting enough attention. In the IFS framework, this led to parts that were not being heard.
Such a simple question: "what *about* her makes me feel so alive?" -> art, adventure etc. when those things were missing in my life
Thanks for this piece!
I love that question: “what about this person makes me feel so alive?” Thank you for reading and sharing!
What ended up happening to the woman who only went to Michelin starred restaurants? Did she have a turn like in the movie and marry a middle class (or lower) guy or did she stay in rich world forever?
What I can say is that she knew what she wanted all along and got what she wanted, and they seem very happy. :)
If I may bring up House of Cards (the early seasons) Claire and Frank Underwood are not in love by Gen Z standards, nor by any romance that we might think of. They love each other in a cold, brutal way. They empower each other, fight for each other, and challenge each other. Yet their love doesn’t waiver. They are secure in their relationship, and yet have no romance, and yet have undying love.
The counter of this might be the musical Hadestown. Hades loves Persephone in the same cold and brutal way, yet he is insecure. His factories and walls is this perception. In the play, Hades character development is to forgo this coldness, and reintroduce warmth - “to remind an old man how to feel young again”, ultimately to start over again with Persephone (toying with mortal emotions along the way, which is so greek of him).